Relational Healing Communications
Connected
Sometimes we don't realize how much being in connection matters to us until we are in a conflict. Human connection invites a sense of belonging and safety when we have supportive relationships around us. Connectedness happens when two or more people interact with each other and each person has a sense of being valued, respected and heard. We teach people ways to come back into connection when there has been a breach in that rapport.
Constructive
Rather than having destructive conversations, constructiveness is a positive force intending to build and create. We've all been there when things seem to be falling apart in our world and feel utterly hopeless. These practices provide valuable tools that are practical, effective and productive for the purpose of encouraging growth and expansion, giving us freedom from the habitual patterns that keep us stuck.
Communication
Our every day lives are dependent on communication, whether it involves directly interacting with others, or getting a message across in other ways. There is a whole wave of events that can happen before we even open our mouths or hit the 'send' button that many of us fail to stop and consider. Effective communication with others actually starts with looking at our inner worlds and how we relate to ourselves and other elements in our lives.
Coaching
We as humans are not meant to go on our path alone. There is a wisdom already inherent within each individual that can be accessed with the help of others who are there to remind us of who we are. Support from others who have already been through some of life's challenges is sometimes all we need in order to make a shift. Our programs are designed to give insight, accountability, and mentorship to guide you into your own transformation.
What Does Relational Mean?
From the moment we are born, we are in relationship every second of our lives, whether it is with another person, or with ourselves. The world as we know it would not be what it is if we weren’t relating to something or someone. Everything we see around us, every system in place, every tool we use, required some sort of exchange of engagement to be what is is today. To be relational is to be aware of how we are…
About us
Founder, Relational Healing Coach
Nari Tabcum
Having experienced the transformative power of healing in relationships through compassionate reframing, Nari has discovered a sense of liberation, empowerment, and freedom beyond the confines of her own mind. Today, she’s driven by a deep conviction that this work can transform lives and strengthen our shared humanity. She now dedicates her life to making it accessible to others so we can create the more peaceful world we all long to live in.
With over 20 years of experience, Nari Tabcum specializes in helping individuals, couples and groups cultivate deeper, more meaningful relationships. Through her training in Authentic Facilitation, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and interest-based mediation, Nari creates environments that foster trust, empathy, and genuine growth. Drawing on transformational models like Robert Gonzales’s Living Compassion and Terry Real’s relational practices, Nari supports clients in building more connection, harmony and emotional freedom in their lives.
Her sessions combine heartfelt insights with evidence-based methods, particularly Internal Family Systems (IFS), helping clients face life’s challenges with resilience. Nari empowers people to break free from limiting beliefs and embrace their innate capacity for empathy and understanding.
In her personal life, Nari practices these same principles, fostering a meaningful relationship with her partner, James, through transparent, loving dialogue. Beyond her work, she finds joy in lei making, basket weaving, cooking delicious meals, and spending time with her cherished cat, Kang Singe.
Nari’s vision is a world where compassion and self-awareness lead to stronger connections and a more harmonious society.
Mindful Communication Coach
James Tolley
With over a decade of experience in communication mastery, James Tolley has immersed himself in Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and Couples Dialogue, guiding individuals and couples toward deeper, more authentic connections. Trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS) with Everett Constantine on Maui, James has a unique blend of relational and inner healing skills that inform his compassionate approach.
As a dedicated practitioner of Buddhism, James emphasizes cultivating a steady awareness of the Natural State of Mind. His life’s work revolves around dissolving disinformation by empowering people to access truth directly, free from intermediaries. Through applied spirituality, James aims to support the creation of an enlightened society where individuals can experience genuine inner peace.
For James, the driving force is the profound belief that everyone has the ability to live in a state of lasting bliss by connecting with their innate Buddha-Nature. This is actually the Ultimate Truth above all.
Client Stories
“From the beginning Nari has helped me highlight the importance of being my own best friend. She helped me touch the most intimate spots within myself, the ones that need the most love and compassion. We work with a blend of healing techniques from cognitive behavioral therapy to internal family systems to nonviolent communication. She has a keen eye for what needs immediate attention and redirects us to the work. Her ability to have a gentle yet very impactful approach has been more helpful that any of the multitude of therapist or programs that I have been through. My goal is wellness and seeking a better relationship with myself. Any time I work with Nari I move closer to that goal.”
~ Cole G
“A couple years ago I hit rock bottom and found myself in a very dark place. I was affected physically, mentally and emotionally. I was filled with depression, anxiety, PTSD, hopelessness and even suicidal thoughts. Nari’s consistent support provided a pillar of strength that shined light in the seemingly never ending darkness.
Nari’s extraordinary level of patience, compassion and non judgement allowed me to feel truly seen, validated and heard.
Nari’s dedication to my well being was a journey of self discovery that we walked together that uncovered and revealed the core patterns and beliefs contributing to my suffering.
Nari’s provided helpful tools and insights that brought me resolve and in turn to a much more stable and healthy mental and emotional state.
Nari’s was truly my beacon of hope during that time of difficulty and despair.”
~ Emily J
“Nari is kind, insightful, and compassionate. She has a wealth of knowledge to pull from and empathetically listens to the challenges that I face, insightfully guides me, and is direct and blunt when she knows I need it. She allows herself to be a sounding board in moments of frustration and guides me with crafting communication.
Her heart is in the right place and it’s obvious after working with her that she is dedicated to this work and has so many gems to share with the world.”
~ Nicole N
Free Referral Program
❤️🔥 Have you ever found yourself in an interaction that had some friction?
❤️🔥 Do you sometimes feel stuck in the same patterns of engaging with your loved ones?
❤️🔥 Would you like to get some insight or support with navigating conflicts with ease?
For a limited time, I am running a referral program where you get to receive 6 sessions for FREE in exchange for feedback and referrals. During these sessions, we will dive in to see how you can find more spaciousness and freedom so you can access your inner resources to be able to more effectively handle disagreements.
“Do you want to be right or do you want to be in relationship?”
~ Harville Hendrix, author of Getting the Love you Want
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The quality of our lives can be heavily impacted by the way we relate to each other. If you are experiencing challenges that are effecting your life, let us help you on your way to relational wellness!